How To Keep The Spark Alive – Lesson 1.2 – You Can Keep It Special

Welcome to Lesson #2 of the How To Keep The Spark Alive course!

In the last lesson, you discovered that relationships usually begin with passion and excitement, and as the relationship progresses to moving in with each other or marriage, that passion decreases and can even disappear.

Does that mean all of that wonderful excitement and passion is gone forever?

Happily, no. You can keep that fire of passion going, and we’re going to discuss some of those strategies in this lesson.

The Power Of Making Your Relationship A Priority

A priority is something or somebody you spend time, energy, and money on and is the most important thing in your life.

If you’re unsure about the top priority in your life, ask yourself the following questions:

1. Who or what takes up most of my time? You may spend most of your time at work, but why do you work?
   • Sure, you work to pay the bills, but don’t you really work so that you and your partner have what you need for your lives to flourish?
2. Where does my money go? Some people are great at saving money while others don’t know where it went.
   • Most of your money may go to providing a place to live. When that house or apartment is for a home and not just a place to live, you have set your relationship as a priority.
   • If most of your money goes to something just for you or other than your family, then your family is not your priority.
3. Who or what do I think about the most? What you think about uses your mental energy or mental currency. What you think about the most, especially when not at work, let’s you know what your greatest priority is.
   • When it’s your spouse or partner, then your relationship is your priority.

The routine of work and taking care of shelter, transportation, food, and clothing can occupy much of your time and energy. When you keep your partner as your priority (and your expanded family if you have children), it’s easier to keep the passion going in your relationship.

Forming a few habits or rituals to enrich your relationship helps keep those fires burning and makes the routine exciting and fun..

Routines vs. Rituals

Your routines are actions that enable you to accomplish the necessities of life. These are the actions to get yourself going in the morning, making it to work, and ending your day.

Rituals are a type of routine, but they have a deeper meaning behind them. Rituals provide a specialness to your activity. Some common rituals are found at church, family celebrations, and even ball games and concerts.

When you establish a few meaningful rituals in your relationship, you reinforce the importance of your partner and your relationship.

Rituals To Cement Your Relationship

Have some fun establishing rituals for the two of you. The only ground rule is that they be meaningful for both of you.

Here are a few fun rituals that have provided excitement and intimacy for others:

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