How To Keep The Spark Alive – Lesson 5.4 – Sensuality And Sexuality

Welcome to Lesson #28 of the How To Keep The Spark Alive course!

In the last lesson, you had a crash course in hormones that affect sexual drive.

This lesson will be fun. You’ll have an introduction into what turns people on. This will give you some ideas of what to do to initiate having sex as well as fun things to do during sex. We’ll continue that in the next chapter as we discuss fun sex games.

What’s The Difference?

Succinctly, sensuality is about the senses: the way cloth feels on your body, aromas, touching, beautiful scenery, and the sounds you hear. Some sensory information you don’t like, such as the smell of rotting garbage. Others you enjoy. A beautiful sunset can transport you to a feeling that seems beyond yourself.

Sexuality is about sex, gender preference, what you do and what turns you on sexually. Sensuality is definitely involved but not all sensuality is sexual. Gazing at a beautiful lake may take you to a place of awe and wonder without having anything to do with sex.

Before The Fun Stuff

Remember that nature wants to ensure that babies are produced. Nature not only wants babies, but she also wants healthy babies. She’s done several things to ensure that happens. Billy Crystal, the comedian, sums up the differences succinctly: “Women need a reason for sex. Men just need a place.“

Consider these ideas:

1. Women have a slower sexual response. This ensures that she has sex with the right person. If nature was talking, she’d say, “Be sure that man makes good babies and can take care of them.”
2. Women’s sense of smell is more sensitive than men’s. Men have to smell right to the woman. Research has shown that the right smell triggers something in the woman that says, “This guy’s for me.”
3. Men’s visual cortex in the brain is about the same size as the area for sex in the brain. How their partner looks is important to them because their brain is turned on by visual cues.
4. Men have a quick sexual response. Just imagine nature saying, “When she’s ready, you need to be ready.”
5. Same gender partners. If your partner is the same gender as you, your brain works the same even if you’re not making babies.

The Most Sensual And Sexual Areas Of The Body

The key is to come to know your partner. What turns them on? Let’s look at what researchers in this area have discovered and what people like you and me have said.

Know the erogenous zones:

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