How To Keep The Spark Alive – Lesson 5.2 – How And Why Sex Drives Differ

Welcome to Lesson #26 of the How To Keep The Spark Alive course!

Now that you’ve explored topics to discuss regarding sexual interests and desires, let’s look at the difference in sex drives between men and women as well as within males and females.

In nature, there is only one reason to have sex and that’s to have babies. Sexual pleasure is, you could say, the bribe to entice you to do what is necessary. Nature also wants healthy babies. That’s the biological reason for differences in sex drive.

Before Science Intervened

Chemicals cause changes in your hormonal system that can cause changes in sexual desire. Laboratory-made chemicals began in 1828. As you know, you now eat, breathe, and absorb chemicals. Many chemicals are hormone disruptors and can change your hormones, which will change emotions.

Physical Differences

The anatomy (sex organs, brain, etc.) and physiology (digestion, production of sperm and eggs, etc.) of men and women vary.

Learn the differences between men and women that cause different sex drives:

1. The area in the hypothalamus of the brain that triggers mating behaviour is more than twice as large in men as in women.
   • Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman found that men think about sex six times more often than women. If a woman thinks about sex every hour, men think about it every ten minutes.
   • The vision center in the brain is about the same size as the area in the brain that triggers mating behaviour. This may explain why men are turned on visually more than women.
2. Women are more cyclical in nature than men. A woman’s menstrual cycle changes how open she is to her partner and to having sex.
   • Oestrogen peaks during the first couple of weeks of the menstrual cycle. She is more open, friendlier, calmer, and talkative.
   • Progesterone peaks in the last two weeks of the menstrual cycle. Women are, in general, more irritable, easily stressed, want to be alone more, and they’re also more creative.
   • When a woman ovulates, she is often more open to having sex.
   • However, men appear to have a daily cycle in which testosterone is higher in the morning than in the evening.
3. The age of a higher sex drive seems to correlate with the best times to have a healthy baby.

   

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