How To Find True Love – Lesson 2.5 – What’s Your Love Language?

Welcome to Lesson #12 of the How To Find True Love course!

You’ve explored intimacy, communication patterns, sensuality, and sexuality, so hopefully, you’ve been getting a clearer idea of what you want in your relationship.

Understanding what is important to you and your partner assists in selecting a partner who is compatible.

In this lesson you’ll examine what others do or say that results in you feeling loved, cared for, and appreciated.

Which Option Would Send Your Heart Soaring?

• A day in the park
• A small, unexpected gift
• Hearing, “I’m so proud of you”
• Holding hands in public
• Picking up take-out when you’re tired and stressed

How would you feel if what you really wanted was take-out after a taxing day and your partner said “I’m so proud of you”? Would the words mean as much? If your partner knew you really wanted take-out, would they do it?

Imagine spending an hour picking out what you think is the perfect gift and your partner gives you a quick hug, says “Thank you”. and puts it on the table never to be picked up again. If you knew your partner really wanted to go on a picnic in the park, would you do it?

Each person has what Gary Chapman, the author of The 5 Love Languages, calls a Love Language, which is what others say or do to and for you which leaves you feeling special and loved.

Why Love Languages Are Important

When you care about somebody, you want them to feel special and loved. Usually, people show their love in the way they want it shown to them.

You might feel special with a spontaneous gift because your partner was thinking of you, while your partner feels special when you them give a wonderful back rub. When you give the gift rather than the back rub, it’s not that your partner doesn’t like the thought of the gift, it’s that your partner feels more appreciated and loved with the back rub.

When you show your love in the way which is more meaningful to your partner, your partner feels closer and more understood. You become closer. The feeling of intimacy increases.

Not everybody feels special with the same acts or words of love.

The Love Languages

As you read about the five Love Languages, notice which one is most meaningful to you. Imagine your partner doing or saying what is listed and notice how you feel.

If you have a partner, see if you can figure out which is most meaningful to them.

These are the five Love Languages:

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