How To Find True Love – Lesson 2.4 – Sexuality And Sensuality

Welcome to Lesson #11 of the How To Find True Love course!

Sexuality and sensuality can enhance your relationship. By communicating honestly with each other about your needs and desires, you can have a wonderful time expressing your sexuality in fun, sensual ways.

Learn More About Sexuality

Sexuality is not as black and white a topic as portrayed in the newspapers or on social media.

Let’s look at some of the complexities:

1. The capacity for sexual feelings is an aspect of your sexuality. Libido, or sexual drive, varies from person to person, between genders, and according to different stages of life.
   • Research shows that men have a stronger sexual drive than women. Men think about sex more often than women, even when they age.
   • Women’s sexual desire is more influenced by emotions and environmental factors. Sensuality plays a major role in increasing women’s sexual desire.
   • Some people joke that women need to have the “right” sensory cues for them to get “turned on”. Men need to see a woman (if they are heterosexual) to get turned on.
   • There are people who have no sex drive and no attraction to either gender. They are asexual.
   • At the opposite end of the continuum, some people have an extraordinary desire for sex, somestimes even being classified as a sex addiction.
   • What’s important to realize is that sexual drive varies according to the individual. There is nothing wrong with you if you have a lower or higher sexual drive than another as long as everything is consensual and legal.
2. Sexual orientation is a major part of your sexuality. Even orientation is not as clear cut as you may think. Below are a few variations, but there are more.
   • Research shows there is a continuum ranging from complete homosexuality and complete heterosexuality. Even when attracted to somebody, it’s not always sexual. It can be the attraction of friendship.
   • There are people who consider themselves “fluid” or pansexual in sexual orientation. They are attracted sexually to whomever they love.
   • Transsexuals are those who are genetically one gender but feel or identify as the other gender. They can also be heterosexual or homosexual.
   • Hermaphrodites are people born with the genitals of both genders. Their parents will usually raise them as one gender or the other.
3. Sexual activity is an additional factor contributing to your sexuality. No matter the sexual orientation or sexual drive, people make choices about their sexual activity.
   • Some choose to abstain from sexual activity for religious reasons. They may also choose to limit sexual activity to within marriage. Research demonstrates that women are better able to adhere to their vows than men.
   • Some people also choose to limit sexual activity due to personal reasons.
   • There are those who believe in open relationships in which both partners enjoy sexual relationships with others.

Sexuality And Choosing A Partner

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