How To Find True Love – Lesson 1.4 – The Soul Mate Myth

Welcome to Lesson #4 of the How To Find True Love course!

Now that you know the danger of choosing a partner based upon body chemistry or feelings of need or familiarity, let’s examine the concept of a Soul Mate.

Humans Want And Need Connection

Thousands of years ago, it was next to impossible to stay alive unless you belonged to a group. You needed somebody to help you hunt, gather food, and watch your back.

Back in the “olden” days, and in many cultures today, parents arranged marriages for the children. These arrangements were not based upon love. They were based upon survival, upon what was best for the family, tribe, or even nation.

In the Western world especially, marriages are based upon love – and from this sprang the concept of Soul Mate.

In this lesson, you’ll explore what a Soul Mate is, whether the belief in a Soul Mate makes for better partnerships, and whether Soul Mates are destined or made.

What Is A Soul Mate?

The ancient Greeks believed that, at one time, there was no gender. Then the time came when these genderless beings divided into two separate beings, one male and one female. This resulted in each partner feeling like they were missing their other half. This other half was their Soul Mate.

In one survey in the United States, 79% of people under the age of 45 believed there are Soul Mates.

Within these people there are two groups:

• One group believes there is only one person in the world for them.
• The other believes Soul Mates are made, not preordained.

What you believe about Soul Mates, according to research, establishes patterns of behaviour in your relationships.

One-and-only believers have the subconscious fear that they’ll miss “that one” who is destined for them, and they often leave relationships when challenges arise.

They have a tendency to believe that the relationship with the Soul Mate is the perfect relationship, that both partners are compatible in every way. When relationship issues come up, and they will in any relationship, the thought is, “Well, this isn’t my Soul Mate. I need to keep looking.”

On the other hand, those who believe Soul Mates are made, not destined, see challenges as obstacles to overcome, not a sign they are with the wrong person.

They ask questions such as:

• Are we compatible?
• How can we work this out?
• Is there something I need to do differently?

The Relationship “Mindfield”

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