How To Find True Love – Lesson 1.3 – Beware Of The Need To Fill The Emptiness Within

Welcome to Lesson #3 of the How To Find True Love course!

Now that you’ve explored the chemical nature of infatuation and the childhood influences of attraction, it’s time to discover how you may be choosing somebody to fill an emptiness within you.

Many love songs focus on finding somebody who will fulfill a need or feeling complete.

As wonderful as fulfilling a need may feel, there are dangers to forming a relationship with someone who fills an emotional hole in you:

• Joining together out of pain fulfills a need only for as long as the pain is present.
• What happens when the pain is gone? Do you still need each other or is pain the only thing holding your relationship together?

The “A” Relationship And The “H” Relationship

Consider these types of relationships:

1. In an “A” relationship, two people are leaning on each other. They each supply a need for the other person. One person may need to rescue others to feel useful and complete. The other may be having a difficult time and need to be rescued.
   • The relationship is strong as long as each person is leaning upon the other. When a person no longer needs rescuing, this leaves the other without a role.
   • A relationship based upon emotional pain leaves an emptiness when the pain is gone. There is a void which, if not filled, will lead to the ending of the relationship.
   • Look at the letter “A” – if one part of “A” decides to stand up straight, the other part falls.
2. In an “H” Relationship, the two are partners. They walk hand in hand with each other.
   • If one decides to no longer walk hand-in-hand, the other is still standing. The two can go their separate ways or they can explore their interests and come back together.
   • Each person is strong within themselves and does not need the other to be complete but desires to be with the other.

A True Story Of An “A” Becoming An “H”

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