Healing From Your Break-Up – Lesson 3.5 – Changing Behaviour

Welcome to Lesson #10, the final one, of the Healing From Your Break-Up course!

By reading the lessons and doing the exercises, you have strategies to change the thoughts and feelings which resulted from holding onto the pain of the past.

The last area to be aware of is your own behaviour. Repetitive actions become a habit, and habits are actions which occur without thought.

Recovery from the past requires that you apply thought to your actions and behaviours.

Know the Definition Of Insanity

If you want to buy a vegetarian meal but always go to the steak house which puts bacon into its vegetables, you’re never going to get a vegetarian meal. Every time you go to that restaurant wanting vegetarian, you’ll be disappointed. That’s an example of insanity.

Insanity is repeatedly doing the same thing expecting different results.

If you continue to go to the same park you and your ex always went to, and you leave that park feeling down or angry each time, you’re the living example of insanity. True, you may feel like you’re going insane with all the pain you’re carrying, but there’s no reason to make it worse.

To recover from the painful wound you’ve experienced, it’s time to embrace the challenge of finding new things to do, new places to go, and new ways of doing things.

From Insanity To Victimization

Many people are examples of the definition of insanity. They also begin to feel like a victim because nothing is working out for them. You may have felt like a victim when the relationship ended.

But you do not need to remain a victim!

What happens after everything pertaining to the relationship is over, is that you are left with a major challenge. That challenge is to pull yourself out of feeling like a victim and get back in touch with the amazing, powerful you that is hiding beneath all that pain.

You are the one who can pull yourself out of repetitive and non-productive behaviours and become the wonderful you.

Behaviours Can Trigger Thoughts And Emotions

Your actions can assist in your goal to release the past or they can hold the past firmly in place.

This is why it’s crucial to be aware of what behaviours trigger the emotional pain, because once you know your triggers, stay away from them. That’s more difficult than you think, but you can do it.

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