Embrace Your Flaws And Improve Your Life

Introduction

We so often admire those around us who just get things done – they may seem to have no outstanding attributes that would give them a head-start on their peers, but they manage to power through their lives.

They have daily successes in all fields – work, relationships, and more.

And while there can be a whole set of variables that contribute to their life and lifestyle, there is very likely one common denominator – they are not hung up on trying to be perfect all the time.

Nothing gets in the way of progress, in any field of endeavour, like perfectionism, and the overthinking that goes along with it.

Are you an apologist for being you? If not to others, at least to yourself?

If you are held back by a mindset that has you too regularly focusing on your flaws and imperfections, instead of just doing it, this guide can help you.

Embrace Your Flaws And Accept Yourself

There may be times when people point out your flaws and you wonder why you have them.

Why can’t you be perfect?

The answer is an easy one – nobody is!

And that’s why it’s important to remind yourself of that fact.

If you focus on your flaws, then you feel negative.

Instead, you must learn how to embrace who you are, flaws and all. “Coz you’re amazing, just the way you are!” (Did you sing that?)

Certainly, it is easier said than done, but if you can embrace your flaws by putting the effort in to do so, you can become a very contented person.

Here are some tips on how you can embrace your flaws and accept yourself.

Stop Believing You Are Not Good Enough

When you think about your flaws too much, you fall into the trap of believing that you are not good enough. You begin to compare yourself to other people. “Why are they so wonderful and I am not?”

Instead, you must stop believing that you are inadequate and accept the wholeness of your being – because imperfections are what make you complete.

Your flaws make you unique, so stop trying to fit the mold of what you think is perfect.

Don’t measure yourself against what others have, or you’ll diminish your sense of self-worth.

Stop comparing yourself with other people, and you’ll be more contented and at peace with yourself.

Look At Your Weaknesses As Strengths

Reframe how you view your flaws as weaknesses by seeing them as strengths.

The difference between the two is more a matter of perception than it is of reality.

And if you change your perspective, you’ll see that these flaws provide you with an opportunity to improve yourself, if that is your goal.

Once you have accepted your flaws for what they are, you can make conscious efforts to correct them to be a better version of yourself.

What you believe are your flaws are often the very thing that you need.

For instance:

• Your being a perfectionist is what drives you to do a polished job, which makes you excellent in what you do.
• Your impatience makes you take action immediately.
• Your brutal honesty makes you not settle for less.

Practise Self-Compassion

When you start to pay too much attention to your flaws, you may start to beat yourself up.

However, that’s not going to do you any good.

Instead, you can decide whether you can do something about it – or even if you should do anything about it at all.

If you think, however, that it can be changed and that you should change it, then go ahead – take some quiet time for deep self-reflection so you can decide whether you should take action or leave it be.

Look at yourself from the perspective of all the people who love you – your friends, family, colleagues.

Do they accept you for who you are, regardless of what imperfections you have?

If so, how can you not?

So, choose what you decide to listen to from your inner critic and practice self-compassion.

Your Flaws Make You Human And Relatable

Your flaws are what make you human and relatable to other people.

For every flaw that you have, there is a story you can tell, and that’s unique to you – and that is what makes you different from other people.

When you acknowledge your flaws for exactly what they are, you begin to embrace yourself and see the beauty that’s behind them.

Every human being has more than one imperfection, and that’s okay.

The flaws are what make life more exciting.

Imagine a life where everybody was the same – flawless and predictable. Wouldn’t that be monotonous and boring?

So, stop striving for perfection in yourself because that’s the one ambition that nobody will ever achieve.

Instead, celebrate yourself, accept that you have flaws, and decide whether you must do something to improve or just let them be.

Perfection is not the key to happiness – gratitude is.

So instead of feeling down and beating yourself up for sucking at something, be grateful for the opportunities they bring for your self-improvement, and also for the uniqueness they give to you.

Why Is Imperfection Important?

Have you been on a quest for perfection?

If so, how are the results so far?

If you haven’t been happy about it or have more down moments than highs, more disappointments than accomplishments, then maybe it’s time for a “perfectionism rehab”.

There’s nothing wrong about wanting to give your best, do your best, and achieve the best.

What becomes problematic is when, in spite of all your efforts, you feel inadequate, you feel short of your role, you feel unworthy.

Keep in mind that it’s okay to be imperfect – because everybody is imperfect. Even the most perfect person you can think of has flaws.

It’s time to stop beating yourself up, accept your flaws for what they are, and embrace your imperfections.

Here’s why imperfection is important.

Imperfection Makes You Stand Out

When you think about perfection, you tend to think that everything should be “just so”. You expect to have everything according to social standards, people’s judgment, and whatever other criteria you can apply.

However, if that were the case, you would be largely bland and uninteresting.

On the contrary, it’s the imperfections that make you stand out and set you apart from the norm – it’s your perceived “flaws” that make you interesting and attract people to your uniqueness.

Perfection makes you boring because if you have all that’s expected, what more could there be?

Imperfection Pushes You Forward

Being a perfectionist can hold you back, hugely – you go over and over that thing that you’re working on, and you don’t let it go until you are satisfied that you have covered everything.

While it’s good to aspire to be excellent, wanting something to be perfect can prevent you from ever releasing anything you’ve created. By the time you think you’ve got it, it may already be too late – the opportunity has passed.

Imperfection, meanwhile, is what pushes you forward – you’re not afraid to go out there, share your creations, and take risks.

Because you accept that it’s normal to make mistakes, it propels you to improve yourself – do it, and be prepared to modify and refine as you go.

Mistakes provide you with valuable lessons. Mistakes provide you with valuable lessons.

Imperfection Makes You Human And Draws People To You

Who would you rather talk to – somebody who seems to have everything or somebody who’s been through a similar situation who would understand you and your personal struggles?

Imperfection humanizes a person and makes them relatable to other people.

Rather than driving people away from you because you are flawed, it actually gravitates them to you because they can relate to what you’ve been through.

They may share the same story that you have, which is why they naturally want to connect with you.

Imperfection makes you vulnerable too, and in a good sense. When you allow yourself to appear vulnerable, people can relate to you, and that helps you create bonds and build stronger relationships.

You are human, after all, and somebody who would need help from the people that surround you. In this way, you make them feel more valuable and worthy too.

Imperfection Creates Authentic Beauty

Nothing beats authentic beauty, and that also comes from your imperfections.

Your flaws make you real, and as a result, it makes you beautiful. Your imperfections also create beauty in your life, for yourself and others.

If you are not making any mistakes, there’s no lesson to look back on, there’s nothing to laugh about years later, there’s nothing to reminisce about that will make you feel proud of how far you’ve come.

Therefore, instead of hiding your flaws, or hiding from them, embrace them. Don’t dwell on them, but draw inspiration and motivation from them so that you can move forward and work on your self-improvement.

Don’t be afraid to admit that you make mistakes, because that’s what makes you authentically beautiful in the eyes of many people, who would be able to look at you as someone they can learn from and grow with.

Perfection is unattainable, uninteresting, lonely, and a futile effort to fit into the mold of social standards.

On the contrary, it is the imperfections that make life more interesting, fun, fulfilling, and inspiring.

When you learn to accept that you are flawed, and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing, you have a better sense of self-worth, you feel more in control, and you are more inclined to draw strengths from what you think are your weaknesses.

Don’t be too hard on yourself because you are beautiful just the way you are.

Stop Saying Sorry For Your Flaws Or Imperfections

If you do something wrong, it is only natural, and honourable, to say sorry and own up to your mistake.

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